This House of Grief (2014) by Helen Garner

True Crime in Australia

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On Father’s Day in 2005, driving his three young children back to their mother’s house, a recently separated husband drives off the road plunging down a bank and into a dam. The man manages to escape and the three children drown.

Everything that happens just before the couple’s separation, on that day and in the period afterwards becomes part of the story presented as evidence to either support the man’s grief or accuse him of the children’s murder.

Sitting In on Courtroom Drama

Helen Garner, author and freelance journalist, sits through the initial court case, the appeal and retrial, presenting to the reader a version of what she witnesses from the courtroom.

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Unlike a jury that must weigh evidence against a charge, she speculates, confers and tries to understand the truth. She swings from one opinion to another, grappling with the thought of whether or not it is possible in a moment of impulsivity, that a man who clearly loved his children, could commit this act deliberately.

The man’s ex-wife doesn’t believe he did it intentionally.

Ultimately it is for a jury to decide and a judge to sentence.

As the American writer Janet Malcolm says in her magisterial work ‘The Journalist and the Murderer,’ “Jurors sit there presumably weighing evidence but in actuality they are studying character.”

Whose Perspective Matters?

The case shows how complex justice can become, often with strategic purpose, how fatiguing it can be on everyone involved, how very different perceptions of the same information can be, how loyal family can be, how spiteful people in relationships can act, and how strong denial and self-delusional are.

Garner doesn’t just follow the evidence and observe all the attendants in the room – noting their expressions, responses, who looks at who, capturing side comments, little notes passed to and from people, eavesdropping conversations – she also follows up with people on the outside, who have spent their careers in courtrooms, testing out some of her observations and theories.

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In her recent collaborative book The Mushroom Tapes, she attended a murder trial with two literary authors. They provided a counter to own thinking, enabling perspectives to be tested, refined, looked at from different angles.

In this earlier work, Garner is accompanied by her curious and attentive 16-year-old niece Louise. Though at certain points she questions the parents openness in allowing her to be present (she considers this on a day she was absent, with frank relief), each time she shares one of Louise’s insightful comments, it is revelatory.

There is something to be said for the cross generational team observation, good for the author and also a reminder to the reader that this is one person’s observation and it is a majority that decide.

On a day when the trial was slow going, when confusion and boredom filled the room and she noted that everyone had been affected by it, she contacted an old friend, a now retired barrister.

‘Farquharson’s counsel,’ I texted, ‘is killing us with boredom.’

He replied at once: ‘A time-honoured approach, when no feather to fly with. Still, one has heard it said that the fear of boring oneself or one’s listeners is a great enemy of truth.’

Time Heals and Time Destroys

The trial dissects not just the events of that one devastating Father’s Day, but the relationship of the couple, and things said to others while they were going through the painful process of separating. Things that in hindsight might be construed as intention, not mere jest. Throughout the first trial Cindy Gambino is supportive of her ex-husband, she refuses to believe that this man she knows loved his children, could ever intentionally carry out such an act.

Police wire-tap friends and try and get them to lead conversations where they need them to go. But all of these relationships are averse to betrayal, their histories are too long, connections too deep and their fear of reprisal too great.

Be Careful What You Say in Public

A couple of months before the retrial Garner was invited to give a talk about non-fiction in a State library. Someone in the audience asked her about her opinion on the trial, a subject she did not wish to get drawn into.

I confined myself to the observation that the only person who knew the truth wasn’t talking, and changed the subject.

One day a month or so later during a lunch break of a pretrial preliminary sitting, the defence lawyer pulled Garner aside for a word. He told her he had been sent a video of her talk at the library; Fear that she had said something inappropriate ripped through her.

My heart went boom. ‘Did I drop a clanger?’

‘You did. You said, “Only one person knows what happened in the car that night, and he’s not talking.” He leaned forward on both elbows and subjected me to a power-darkened look. ‘Our case is that my client doesn’t know what happened in the car that night. Because he was unconscious. By offering that opinion in a public forum, you were undermining my client’s right to silence. I think you might be in contempr of court.’

‘Contempt of court? Me?’ I broke into a cold sweat.

Discrediting a Witness

By the time of the retrial, five years after the event, the experience of repetition was disagreeable for many who took the stand. Significantly, Cindy no longer took the same position she had held. The defence sought to undermine that too.

It was exactly what Morrissey was after, a deeply ‘feminine’ shift, inspired not by reason but by wifely grievance and the bitter desire to settle a score.

Audiences attend to unravel a mystery, to understand a truth, but what they find in the courtroom is something a game or a debate, presentations of evidence on one side and efforts to discredit them on the other. The law is the rule book.

I tried to describe how I thought cross-examination worked.

‘The whole point of it is to make the witness’s story look shaky, to pepper the jury with doubt. So you get a grip on her basic observations, and you chop away and chop away, and squeeze and shout and pull her here and push her there, you cast aspersions on her memory and her good faith and her intelligence till you make her hesitate or stumble. She starts to feel self-conscious, then she gets an urge to add things and buttress and emphasise and maybe embroider, because she knows what she saw and she wants to be believed; but she’s not allowed to tell it her way. You’re in charge. All she can do is answer your questions.’

An Unjust System?

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There are most certainly issues in the legal system that are problematic. The re-traumatising of victims is one and the unconscious bias against certain people is another. Recently I listened to an interview with Australian lawyer Suzie Miller, who ironically, has turned to theatre to communicate the inherent biases in the legal system.

Her play Prima Facie to be shown at the Gaiety theatre in Dublin 27-31 January sold out in less than a minute. It is the story of a proud barrister, who becomes a victim and finds herself on the other side of the justice system, and has a rude awakening, on discovering that the law was not written with victims in mind and that she is the one on trial.

I am planning to read the play soon, because of the incredible story of how Suzie Miller came to be in a position to be able to present this story, after all her education and experience and the fact that judges immediately set about implementing change after seeing it. Watch this space.

Though it is at times a laboured read and a tragic one, I did enjoy following the lengthy process through Helen Garner’s eyes. It did not leave me with any definitive answers though, except how difficult it must be to be a jury member in one of these crimes, when there is a system that facilitates the process that seems more like a chess game that an attempt to deliver justice. A system in need of its own reform.

Have you read This House of Grief or seen Suzie Miller’s play?

The Mother by Yvvette Edwards

Mothers in Literature

I had long wished to read Yvvette Edwards second novel, The Mother (2016) after very much enjoying her Booker longlisted A Cupboard Full of Coats (2011). I decided to read it alongside two novels on my shelf with similar themes of the bonds, burdens and breakthroughs of motherhood.

The three novels I chose are set in different countries and contexts: The Mother by Yvvette Edwards (UK) is set in London’s Caribbean community, Mother to Mother by Sindiwe Magona is set in apartheid-era South Africa, and The Mothers by Brit Bennett is set in contemporary Black America.

Sindiwe Magona has written numerous novels; however I have read and reviewed her autobiographies To My Children’s Children (1990) and Forced to Grow (1992), while Brit Bennett is well known for her novel that addresses the theme of passing, The Vanishing Half (2020).

The Complexity of Motherhood

All three novels expose motherhood as fraught with social pressure, moral judgment, and emotional complexity. Despite the different settings, they collectively form a global conversation about motherhood, resilience, and the human cost of structural and racial inequality.

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In The Mother, Marcia grapples with grief and guilt after the murder of her son.

In Mother to Mother, Mandisa reflects on her life while writing to the mother of the girl her son has murdered.

And The Mothers, focuses on young women (and a collective “we” voice of church “mothers”) navigating the expectations of womanhood, including unwanted pregnancy.

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The Mother is the story of a mother’s struggle to come to terms with understanding her teenage son’s violent death, it is both a courtroom drama following the murder of Marcia and Lloydie’s 16-year-old son Ryan and a story of transformation and healing through grief.

I used to be good at making decisions, took it for granted completely, imagined it was one of those things that because I’d always been good at it, I would continue to be good at it, and then something like what happened to Ryan comes along and you realise some things are just temporary gifts granted for part of your life only, like the headful of hair you imagined would be yours forever that you went to sleep with one night and as usual but woke the following morning to find gone, clean gone.

Suffering Together, Drifting Apart – the Complexity of Grief

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Marcia wants to be present every day at court, her husband Lloydie does not. Increasingly emotionally estranged, she does not understand what he does all day, where he goes. Their habits are changing and they seem to be leaving each other behind, dealing with the loss in completely different ways, on their own.

Lloydie is putting my cup of tea on the side when I return to the bedroom. He looks slightly sheepish, is probably annoyed with himself for the mistiming that has meant he has found himself alone with me when we are both awake and alert. He looks at me without speaking.

‘Aren’t you going to ask how it went?’ I say.

It’s not the question I intended; too in-your-face, accusatory. I didn’t want to start the discussion here but it’s out now, I can’t take it back.

His tone is dutiful. ‘How did it go?’

‘It was hard. Listening. Seeing that boy, his mother. Very hard.’

The Need to Understand

Marci is determined to be present every day, to understand why this happened and comes to realise that there may be things about her son that she did not know.

Understanding has been my problem from the start. How is it possible that my son was doing all the right things, that as parents, Lloydie and I, we were doing all the right things, and yet still Ryan is dead?

The novel follows the case and outside the court other events begin to shed light on the situation, Marcia’s beliefs and assumptions are challenged. In her need to know, she becomes reckless.

She observes the boy who is being charged, his fixed stare and has already decided his fate.

…he stares ahead as if it is all beneath him, and as usual I find it unnerving. I have to say that single quality in him is enough to convince me that he did it, that he’s guilty because he has something in his aura of the type of person who could kill someone at six thirty, then stroll home, have dinner and a hot bath, followed by an early night of unbroken sleep.

Edwards is adept at tapping into the realms of Ryan’s peers and the insidious, threatening world of youth gang culture, which comes into full view through he character of Sweetie, the girl caught between the earnest world of Ryan and the manipulative obedience she has to Tyson Manley and his type.

It is a thought provoking story of complicated parenting and motherhood highlighting effects of judgment, truth seeking, and the social forces that shape personal and family outcomes, while reflecting on the particular role of mother. Motherhood becomes a lifelong, consuming identity, the loss of a child, in this case, destabilising her sense of self.

Author, Yvvette Edwards

Yvvette Edwards is a British East Londoner of Montserratian origin and author of two novels, A Cupboard Full of Coats (2011) nominated for The Hurston-Wright Legacy Award and longlisted for the Booker Prize, and The Mother (2016). Her short stories have been published in anthologies and broadcast on radio.

She is interested in writing that challenges the single narrative, giving voice to characters who are absent or under-represented in contemporary fiction.

An Upcoming Novel in March 2026

Good Good Loving, Yvvette Edwards first book in almost a decade, will be published in March 2026 by Virago. The synopsis reads:

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“Ellen’s big, beautiful family are gathered around her hospital bed as she prepares to slip away… her children have chosen now of all times to have a never-ending discussion about all her failings. Every single tiny thing they think she’s done wrong over the years – and the one big thing too. Even after everything, after all the sacrifices Ellen has made for every last ungrateful one of them, they still all take their father’s side. If only they knew the whole story.

“Moving backwards in time through all the decisive moments that have shaped Ellen’s life – the disasters, celebrations and surprises, the revelations, confrontations and betrayals – Good Good Loving is the vibrant story of a multi-generational British-Caribbean family across five decades.”

Next up is Sindiwe Magona’s Mother to Mother :