On Chapel Sands by Laura Cumming

How I Heard About The Book

My curiosity was peaked by a mini review over at JacquiWine’s Journal in which she said this memoir may end up being one of the highlights of her reading year. Though first published in 2019 in the US with the title Five Days Gone: The Mystery of My Mother’s Disappearance as a Child, it was published in the UK by Vintage in April 2020 as On Chapel Sands by Laura Cumming.

I was drawn to it for research reasons, it being a memoir in the genre of mother/daughter relationships with an investigative element, focused on the author’s mother, ancestors and villagers from the Lincolnshire coast, her attempts to uncover past secrets and understand the people who kept them.

Laura Cumming’s Love Letter to Her Mother

I was a little skeptical due to the subtitle, which reads like a tabloid soundbite aimed at selling multiple copies of sensationalist content.

I wasn’t interested in reading a ghostwritten drama tragedy, but the understated cover I first saw here and the simplicity of the new title, suggested a narrative that might make a motif out of a sandy beach. And JacquiWine had recommended it. Others who write about books and follow her will know what I mean by that.

Laura Cumming On Chapel Sands

I loved it. The opening chapter sets the scene, recounting the story of a little girl of three years playing on the beach near her mother and her shocking disappearance.  It is a familiar scene, the beach being down a path not far from their home, the tide going out, the sea half a mile in the distance, her mother Vera inattentive for a moment sees nothing.

One minute she was there, barefoot and absorbed, spade in hand, seconds later she was taken off the sands at the village of Chapel St Leonards apparently without anybody noticing at all. Thus my mother was kidnapped.

The little girl, Betty, was found five days later and returned to her family. Laura Cumming learns about this event in her mother’s life many years later, something her mother has no recollection of, a mystery unsolved, yet it is a turning point in her life explaining why she never went to the beach or left the front yard of their house or played with other children from school.

Her life began with a false start and continued with a long chain of deceptions, abetted by acts of communal silence so determined they have continued into my life too. The mystery of what happened, how it changed her, and her own children, has run through my days ever since I first heard of the incident on the beach thirty years ago.

On Chapel Sands Laura Cumming Memoir

Veda Elston, Betty’s Mother

Rather than seek to resolve the mystery, the book introduces us to the main characters like a novel, including black and white photos, not collected in the middle of the book but placed amidst the text where we read about them.

They are described in a way that makes me flick back to look at them again and again, and I realise this isn’t just a daughter telling a story about her mother, this is an art historian studying a family portrait looking for clues – and finding answers.

To my surprise the truth turns out to pivot on images as much as words. To discover it has involved looking harder, looking closer, paying more attention to the smallest of visual details – the clues in a dress, the distinctive slant of a copperplate hand, the miniature faces in the family album.

She poses many unanswered questions about the events that occurred and seeks answers in the photos she possesses, assembling evidence with the assurity of a forensic expert. Her mother was an artist and taught her how to notice and remember images seen in a museum long before telephones could record them. It has become the way she thinks.

A sense of place is created through references to Dutch painters, there being a resemblance in this landscape to Holland.

The flattest of all English counties, Lincolnshire is also the least altered by time, or mankind, and still appears nearly medieval in its ancient maze of dykes and paths. It faces the Netherlands across the water and on a tranquil day it sometimes feels as if you could walk straight across to the rival flatness of Holland.

Laura Cumming On Chapel Sands

Edgar Degas, The Bellelli Family, (1858-1869) musée d’Orsay

Characters are pondered deeply through photos and family paintings, the author finding inspiration and clues even in more famous works that help us understand the narrative power of an image. By the time I got to reading about Degas’s The Bellelli Family, I had to put the book down and seek the painting out to see more clearly the father’s revealing hand placement mentioned and the escaping dog. What an incredible painting!

I was completely hooked, even looking up to see which museum this painting hangs, and what luck, it’s in the musée d’Orsay in Paris, at least I live in the right country to visit it.

Serendipitously, that same day, Laura Cumming wrote an article in the Observer about the collective yearning for visiting art exhibitions; for Velázquez in Edinburgh, Monet in Glasgow, Goya in Cambridge, Rembrandt at Kenwood House, Poussin in Dulwich, Gwen John in Sheffield.

Cumming is aided by her mother’s writing, the photographs and a little by the visits they would make back to the place of her birth, but she holds out on the big reveal on what really happened until midway into the book, by which time the reader is increasingly desperate have confirmed what she is beginning to suspect.

For my twenty-first birthday, my mother gave me the gift I most wanted: the tale of her early life. This memoir is short, ending with her teenage years, but its writing carries so much of her grace, her truthful eloquence and witness, her artist’s way of looking at the world.

She was fifty-six when she sat down to write and still knew nothing about the kidnap, or her existence before it, except that she had been born in a mill house in 1926; or rather as it seemed to her, that some other baby had arrived there.

Once Cumming learns the truth, there are a roller coaster of emotions spilling onto the page, from anger, disbelief and outrage to sadness, regret and finally some semblance of compassion for those involved. On the continued collective silence though, a protective gesture to cover-up shame, that distorted her mother’s life, she says “in a way, I can’t forgive them.”

I suppose my book, quite apart from being a memoir about my mother and what happened to her and this mystery – it’s also a campaign against collective silence because these people who knew – they knew.

There’s so much more I could say and share, but I urge you rather to read it yourself, particularly if you have an interest in memoir, in mother-daughter dynamics and understanding how art reveals life. It’s a fantastic read, one I’d actually like to read again. And the NPR radio interview is excellent.

On Laura Cumming

Laura Cumming has been the Observer’s art critic for 20 years. Previously, she was arts editor of the New Statesman and a presenter of Nightwaves on BBC Radio 3.

Author of two highly acclaimed books: A Face to the World (2009) draws on art, literature, history, philosophy and biography to investigate the drama of self-portraiture; and The Vanishing Man: In Pursuit of Velázquez (2016), tells the haunting tale of a bookseller’s discovery in 1845 of a lost portrait by Diego Velázquez and how his quest to uncover its strange history ruined his life.

Further Reading

Laura Cumming, Observer Article: Close Your Eyes and Imagine Seeing the Art Worlds Treasures as if for the First Time

NPR Radio, Listen: Laura Cumming Explores Her Mother’s Brief Disappearance In ‘Five Days Gone’

To Read:  An Extract from On Chapel Sands

Laura Cumming On Chapel Sands

“To commemorate Veda’s life, Elizabeth planted thousands of daffodil bulbs in the grounds of Chapel school for the pupils to pick on Mother’s Day each year, so that no future mother would ever be forgotten.”

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20 thoughts on “On Chapel Sands by Laura Cumming

  1. I got this out from the library a while back but had to take it back before I had time to read it (back in those old-normal days). In the light of your glowing review, I have ordered an e-library copy instead so that I can have another go! 😀

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    • Yes, I could see from Jacqui’s review it was going to be interesting and thought provoking read, but I was unprepared for the impact of the paintings and her ability to take you inside them and then see the family photos more clearly. I thought it was just brilliant. I’m even wondering if she might write a book about her father, painful as that might be as he died relatively young, but his work which she doesn’t really mention at all, I looked at and could see there’s certainly a universal story in there as well.

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  2. Stunning review, Claire! I’m so delighted to see how much you enjoyed this book…

    I think you’re absolutely right about the importance of Cumming’s skills as an art historian and critic to her investigation of the mystery surrounding her mother’s disappearance. The role of context, perspective, individual images and details are all critical to the unravelling of the story behind George and Vida and the complex nature of their relationship to Laura’s mother, Betty.

    I don’t think I wrote about this in my piece — partly for personal reasons and partly due to lack of space — but it prompted me to go back to some of the photos of my own mother when she was a young woman. I know there was a period of her life that she never really spoke about to me, a time when she had been engaged to another man before my father appeared on the scene. All I know is that the engagement was broken off at some point, and that my mother went through a period of depression as a result, but I still don’t know very much about the reasons for the separation. This would have been at some in the 1950s, some 5 or 6 years before she met my father. Anyway, reading Cumming’s book highlighted to me the importance of looking for clues in the images of my mother at that time – her expressions, her body posture, her closeness to other people etc. I don’t think I’ll ever really know what happened back then, particularly as all the members of that generation of the family are no longer alive, but it was interesting to revisit those photographs with a fresh eye.

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    • You’re so right Jacqui, there’s so much that can be understood even if only intuitively or through the imagination, but photos and dates and places and people create stories in our minds, many questions were unanswered here, but the likely scenarios she imagines probably cover what was the truth and so to go there in our imagination and feel what that might have been like allows us to empathise and understand. Because even if there were witnesses, no one really knows what goes someone elses mind or why they make the decisions they do. And Ithink the lives of women are even more mysterious than the lives of men as there is often so little trace, so few mementoes. How fortunate she was that her mother gifted her a memoir and that some of those items from Vera’s kitchen are still in use.

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts about your mother, for so many of us our parents lives seem to begin after were born and yet their formative years were so important in making them into who they become and how they influence their own. This will definitely be one of my favourites of the year too.

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  3. Hi Claire 🦋
    I am always happy to read a review and realize I have the book 🧡
    I have the the American title ” Five days gone” as it happens to often…not yet read… So, up this title goes to my tbr 🙂

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  4. Thank you for a wonderful review of a book that I loved. You have made me want to pick up my copy again. On my first reading I was captured completely by the unfolding story, maybe because I am the daughter of an adopted mother who only learned about her earliest years very late in life, and I didn’t consider the art as much as it may deserve.

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  5. I have been feeling so-so about this one but you might just have tipped me into being keen to read it. Frustratingly, I know there are copies in a couple of the local charity shops …!

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  6. Beautiful review, Claire! Love your new review format 🙂 This looks like a beautiful, powerful book. Adding it to my reading list. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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